Big Mama- How Do You Do it?!

People ask me HOW DO I DO IT ALL having three children, have music career, teach, be a wife. Well, I don't. Here's what happens.

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Well I'm not sure if I insulted a friend or not. But I blurted out today that I don't understand how people who have no children, no full-time job and no money plus a pile of other responsibilities claim they can't cope. I love my life, and as stressed as I get, if I could get a personal assistant, a personal trainer, a personal whatever, I would be satisfied.....probably.

It was from two different friends that I heard these complaints or rants about not getting it together because they've got so much on their plate. I wanted to say, "Add a couple of hungry kids, then you will really see what kind of plate you got."

BUT before having children, I was running around like a chicken with my head cut-off too. I spent a lot of time focusing on what seems now to be unimportant stuff now, like shopping and ...........damn I CAN'T REMEMBER what I did with my time before children!!! People say this and its true, I really can't remember. My memory is bad because of hormones, sleep deprivation, sensory overload, and I am already a little "spacey." Imagine now. I know some moms know what I'm talking about.

Its part of the reason........I can't remember what I was about to type. That's bad.

I always try to be understanding when my single or childless friends make this complaint because everyone deals with their "loads" differently. I am only five years into parenting :)
so its not like I'm used to it. I am still feeling my way through motherhood, marriage, and life in general. This is hard for me at times and I feel like some people don't really understand.
If I don't return your call or finish that song or send you the evite, blame dem kids!!!

Struggle is relative.

Sunday, November 12, 2006

People ask me HOW DO I DO IT ALL having three children, have music career, educate, be a wife.
Well, I don't.

Here are the things I neglect:
Sending a thank you note to those special people in my life who do special things for me
Sending out messages about my performances or updates
My hair and eyebrows (occasionally)
Exercise
Getting rid of that big pile of clothes in every corner in every other room
Re-organizing my home studio/office
This list would be longer but I would be neglecting yet another thing- sleep, laundry, songwriting, networking, myspacing ha.